My Bf and I are opposites. We compromise and talk things through all the time. He’s working full time, in school, and has been dealing with people in his life who aren’t there for him like he’s there for them. I told him that I’m here and will be there as long as he wants me to.
He admitted that he has trouble connecting with women. He’s only felt a spark with me and one of he relationship for a while ago, but in every relationship he hits a wall and can’t connect like the other person is. What can I do if anything?
He definitely wants us to work and has talked about seeing a therapist since this is a trend in all his relationships
I think that you should go to therapy as he suggested. He seems to want to get help and that’s a great sign that a change is coming. Other than that you don’t have to do anything. Just be yourself.
Lisa, please help me. I really need your help. I read the article you just sent…and if that’s the case, how do i turn my situation around and make him want to meet me again? Because right now….he doesn’t even want to call or meet me…yesterday night at 2.40 am he asked me if i want to meet later in the day. But when i asked to meet in the daytime, he said nvm. I tried calling him but he hung up on me. So how do I make him want to meet me? How do i turn my situation around and make him see that he can win at my relationship with him? Lisa, please help me…….
My boyfriend said he doesn’t know if he still loves me
Clara I would love to help but you have to understand that if you want a chance to “win” with this, you have to stop being so desperate. He can smell it from miles away. You have to look inside and find your self worth and self esteem first, and it has to be real, it can’t be fake. You deserve better than this, and once you realize it – no one will be able to resist you.
Lisa, This is going to be VERY long so I apologize in advance for the length, but I hope you still read it and could possibly give me some advice, bc I feel as if I have no one and nowhere else to turn at this point. When we first met that fateful night, everything was telling me he was THE one, every positive emotion that I could possibly feel was surging through me (and I had dated guys previously, had a child by my ex, so I had a little bit of life experience under my belt even at 19). My gut was telling me that very night that I was going to be with him for the rest of my life. I felt as though the stars had aligned, and God had sent me this wonderful human being to be apart of me and my daughter’s life.
While we were sitting at the table in his restaurant on our first date, I told him I would never be with another married man (had dated TWO of them without prior knowledge), and the horror and shame danced across his face. That’s when I knew, and he told me in that very moment he was married, but if I would give him a chance to explain, maybe I’d understand. So I did. I immediately said it was okay, reassured him bc he looked ill and he became very emotional and began to cry, plus he was SO open and honest about every single detail, offering it up to me without me having to ask. He was so funny, intimate, loving, considerate, and compassionate and the most selfless person I’d ever met, and above all, committed to ME.